There is something going on in my life right now that I’m not ready to talk about on the internet yet, but I would like to share with you what I’m doing to heal.
1. Staying active.
This will mean something different for each person who reads this. For me, in this moment of my life, hot yoga is the activity that is fueling my soul. I love hot yoga. When I’m in the studio, room full of strangers, instructor guiding the class, sweat dripping down my face, energy flowing through my body, I just can’t get enough.
I’ve never considered myself a person who loved to work out but hot yoga has changed that for me. Find that thing that makes you excited to move your body. Whatever that is. Going on a walk, CrossFit, Zumba, Pilots, Dance, whatever it is, find it, and do it! Not tomorrow, not next month. TODAY. Go now.
2. Ask for help.
For years I’ve thought about talk therapy. But there were so many uncertainties. What if it’s awkward, what if I have nothing to say, what if it doesn’t help, how will I pay for it, where will I go, I’ll have to get in the car and drive to the place to talk to a stranger about my deepest thoughts, god no.
Luckily one day, while listening to my favorite podcast My Favorite Murder, Karen and Georgia mentioned BetterHelp. Online talk therapy at an affordable price. These women are amazing. They talk openly on their podcast about mental health and therapy. I trust these women. So, that day, ignoring all of the other little voices in my head, I signed up. And guess what. It’s not awkward, I do have lots to say, it is helping, it’s not insanely expensive, I do it from the comfort of my home, I don’t have to get in the car to go anywhere, and I’m LOVING the experience.
If you’re like me and have thought about it for years but never did anything because you were scared, put your ego down, and do what your heart tells you to do.
3. Spend some time alone.
You wouldn’t know just by looking at me but I promise you, I come from a big Italian family. Which means as a child and into my early adulthood I never really had any time when it was just me. I loved this for the most part. Always someone else to talk to, hang out with, go for a ride with, etc.
The last few months I’ve been experimenting with spending some time with me. M E. For the first time, ever I went to the movies by myself and I took myself on a Panera date. This time has been lovely. Turns out I kind of like me. The voices in my mind have had a chance to speak and I’ve had a chance to listen. It’s been lovely.
It wasn’t lovely at first because I just felt alone but when I softened into the thought of being physically alone but not actually alone I was able to really enjoy and appreciate this time.
Recommend some actives that you think are great to experience on your own in the comments.
I have a tendency to hold on to things, physical items and emotions. But holding on to these things does not serve me or the people around me. It’s important to appreciate our past and what we’ve learned from the experiences we’ve had and the items that can sometimes represent those experiences. But as Marie Kondō says “The best way to find out what we really need is to get rid of what we don't.”
Taking the time to go through each section of my home and removing items that no longer needed to be in my life was liberating. Plus, my house looks so much more organized and clean now which my inner Monica Geller loves.
5. Be honest.
This is difficult. But when you take the time to really truly evaluate your emotions a whole new world opens up in front of you, I promise. Be open with yourself. Be open to the people around you. The better you communicate to the people in your life what your truth is the better they can understand and appreciate who you are. But better still this openness will allow you to understand and appreciate YOURSELF.
“The sooner you step up into the greater most authentic version of You, the sooner your fears will dissipate, the sooner your concerns will begin to fade, the sooner life will bend towards you. The more you will flow with life. You”
― Rebecca Campbell.